因为年代的更换，现在的小孩子都太幸福了。但是长大后的我们，无论你有钱没有钱，我们人生的压力和难题都好像没有停止过。哈哈哈哈。我们会哈哈大笑是因为我们都深知我们是无法阻止生活带给的阻扰，所以我们应该学会去拥抱不确定性。
我们相信 “植物成长时没有给暴风雨吹过，它的根是不会强壮的”。所以Janice 和我都会给我们的小孩设立一些难关。
Example：
“我们会给孩子很多自由，他7岁就可以自己去condo 的playground玩（我们是没有陪伴的），但是我们会要求他每30min-45min汇报他的状况给我们听，如果他忘记了（他肯定会忘记的），哈哈哈哈哈。他会被grounded 7 天。我们都很少去骂他，因为不给他出去玩比起骂他，他比较能体会。我们还是要笑着和他说；congrats，you are grounded for 7days。我们想通过这个小难关能让他能学习和明白，他的忘记/过错是有后果的，他必须为自己的行为负责。他需要学会为自己做对的决定。”
我们去学校不是去读那几本书所以叫读书，小孩到学校的目的是去学习。书本只是其中一个环节。他们除了需要学习学校书本教的知识外，同时学校也是一个小社会， 让他们学习准备未来去面对真正的社会。
- 学习尊重人
- 学习和同年龄的朋友沟通
- 学会放学不要认错人或随便和别人回家，学会这个社会是有拐带的（难道学校有security 你就不不会这样教你的孩子吗？因为这是security 的工作？）
我们非常感恩和认同我国首相拿督斯里安华的这个建议。因为我和Janice都是去顾客家洗别人的马桶时才真正学会如何去尊重一个人。而不像我们传统的华人教育：你要尊重长辈。HUH？长辈就得尊重，晚辈或者比你条件逊色的就不需要尊重？
"Getting educated is also about learning to be clean and respecting other people, including the cleaners."
最后我很感恩My-Neighbour 的顾客们都是很好和关心我们（我们会收到❤️和他们都对kakak非常的好）。有时候会遇到一些很过分的顾客，当着我们的kakak面说她不会英语，这么差，没有用。Kakak有错我们会道歉和compensate甚至把他们开除。但是遇到不会尊重人的顾客，那个钱我真的不想去赚。因为人生不开心，再多钱都是多余的。
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Due to the changing times, children nowadays seem to be very fortunate. However, as we grow older, regardless of whether we have money or not, the pressures and challenges in our lives never seem to stop. Hahaha. We laugh because we all deeply understand that we cannot prevent the obstacles that life brings, so we should learn to embrace uncertainty.
We believe that "a plant cannot grow strong without being exposed to storms." That's why Janice and I will set up some challenges for our children.
For example:
"We will give our child a lot of freedom. At the age of 7, he can go to the condominium playground by himself (without us accompanying him). However, we will require him to report his condition to us every 30 to 45 minutes. If he forgets (which he definitely will), hahaha, he will be grounded for 7 days. We rarely scold him because not being able to go out and play is a bigger lesson for him than scolding. We will still smile and say, 'Congrats, you are grounded for 7 days.' We hope that through this small challenge, he can learn and understand that his forgetfulness/mistakes have consequences, and he must take responsibility for his actions. He needs to learn to make the right decisions for himself."
When we go to school, it's not just about reading a few books, hence the term "reading." The purpose of children going to school is to learn. The books are just a part of it. In addition to learning the knowledge taught in school books, the school is also a small society that prepares them for the real world.
- Learning to respect others.
- Learning to communicate with peers.
- Learning not to mistake people or go home with anyone after school, understanding that there are dangers in society (just because the school has security doesn't mean you don't need to teach your child this, because it's the security's job).
We are very grateful and agree with the suggestion made by our country's Prime Minister, Dato' Sri Anwar, because it was only when Janice and I went to customers' homes to clean toilets that we truly learned how to respect others. This is different from our traditional Chinese education that emphasise respecting elders. Huh? Should respect only be given to elders, and not to younger or less privileged individuals?
"Getting educated is also about learning to be clean and respecting other people, including the cleaners."
Lastly, we are grateful that our customers from My-Neighbour are very kind and caring towards us (we receive ❤️, and they are all very good to our "kakak" [domestic helper]). Sometimes we encounter some rude customers who say things like "She doesn't know English, so useless" in front of our "kakak." If they are at fault, we apologize and compensate them or even dismiss them. But when we encounter customers who do not respect others, I really don't want to earn that money because it's meaningless if it makes our lives unhappy.
